The Right Way to Speak

Today i read something interesting from the newspaper. It’s about how is the right way to verbally interact with other people so that u will have a good relationship with ur friends or workmates.

It is in chinese so again i will translate it here

How to Praise Someone

  1. praise his talent but not himself
    Example if that person is a chef, never said that “You are really a great chef”. This is because inside his heart he knew that there are much more chef around the world which are way better than him. If u say “I spent half of my whole week time dining in your restaurant”. It does sound better right?
  2. Praise through the third party
    Think most of us would be agree on this. A praise of someone is always best if it is through the mouth of third party. So do the same and tell any third party and hope the word of prais would reach his ears. However, never ever tell the third party about the bad things on someone, often the third party will add up a lot of stories from their own.
  3. Giving or saying gratitude with the right way
    Expressing ur gratitude towards someone who helped u is always good to show ur good manners, but don’t overdo it. If there’s somebody who helped or going to help u on something, simply “Thanks”, “Sorry for the trouble” should be fine enough. Please try not to use “I am lack of knowledge on this field, hope that u could help me on this” or “i am a noob, please teach me”, it could send the wrong messege or that someone might misunderstood ur meaning.
  4. Accepting someone’s praise with a thanks
    When somebody is being praised, a “Thanks for the compliment”. Don’t add anything or replying something unessecary. Eg: If somebody praise that ur shirt or necklace is very nice, u said: “Oh thanks, It’s just a cheap thing”, again could convey the wrong message, and worst if he or she got insulted.
  5. Respect to get respected
    If somebody u hate or ur rival are being praised by anybody, don’t always try to add a: But…, if u really don’t agree with their statement, still u have to say : “Yup, he does work hard on it”. If one day they found out the truth about it and knew that u did not talk bad about ur rival, do u think u will get the respect?

Alright, this are only the first part, will post up the rest of the parts on the next entry 😉


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宝茹 said during June 25th, 2008 at 6:42 am

Great post! I like the one about praise the talent not the person. This way the person would not have a big head too. Anyway, the talent is really the one to be credited. 🙂

Yeah, you’ve been gone for a looooong time! Welcome back (to your own blog, hahahahaha)

Boonage » Blog Archive » The Right Way to Speak 2 said during June 25th, 2008 at 2:52 pm

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boon said during June 25th, 2008 at 2:53 pm

hohoh, thanks 宝茹 ! u are really one of my few loyal reader T_T

leo said during June 25th, 2008 at 5:51 pm

long time never comment ur blog d..
hehe..i read this before from newspaper..ppl always understand but never take any action..

宝茹 said during June 26th, 2008 at 8:49 pm

😛 Few of your loyal readers? have lots of subscribers in your feed! 🙂

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